means that you should be willing to risk your life to help or save
your wife. Christ's love for the church is without limits; nothing is
held back. He gave His life for the church - before we loved Him.
"While we were still sinners, Christ died for us." His love does not
depend on your love for Him; His love is unconditional. Under God's
leadership and help- love your wife as a service--as giving your life
to God. Loving your wife is to be your primary ministry as a husband.
2. "Love your wife in the same way that you love your body and your
life."(Ephesians 5:28-33) You care for your body daily. You try to be
as well fed and healthy as is possible. You quickly take care of any
needs or desires that you may have. Any sexual desire as a husband
should be cared for with your wife. In the same way, care for your
wife's needs and well being. Feel your wife's pain and illnesses and
rejoice in her health and happiness as if it were your own life. A
husband must see his wife's sexual desires and make supreme efforts to
meet those needs too. Basically, her needs or desires, whether they
are financial, physical, emotional or spiritual, must receive your
full attention. In this way, you can love her and provide for her,
just as much as you do for yourself.
3. "Be considerate as you live with your wife, with respect ..."(I
Peter 3:7) The Bible says that if we neglect this command, our prayers
will be hindered! To be considerate means to quit any irritating
habits! When she needs to be helped with carrying heavy items, do it!
If she needs time to herself, take care of the children for her for a
bit! Help your wife in any way you can. Show your love to her and
always be considerate of her needs and wants. Pray and ask God to show
you where you may be inconsiderate.
4. "Do not be harsh with your wife."(Colossians 3:19) Women are a lot
more sensitive than men, so realize that harsh words, angry looks,
irritated tones of voice and impatience will deeply affect your wife.
Rejoice that she is a lady and isn't like you. Remember that she is a
precious gift that God has given you and always be thankful for her.
5. "The husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his
wife."(I Corinthians 7:3-5) Please your wife physically. Don't deprive
her of what she needs. Sexual pleasure is something that is given, not
forced or taken. Discuss with her what her needs are both inside and
outside of the bedroom.
6. "Rejoice in your wife all your life. Let her body satisfy you. Be
captivated with her."(Proverbs 5:18-19) No man should look at other
women, or pictures of other women, when he has a wife on whom he can
gaze daily. A husband should become fully satisfied with his wife's
body. No matter what the size or shape, if a man will try, and ask God
to help him, he can grow to truly find his wife's body to be the most
attractive in the world. This is the true spirit of being captivated
with your wife. If you show that you are attracted to her, she will
feel sexy and lady-like.
7. "Women may be dressed in simple clothing, with a quiet and serious
air; not with vanity about her hair and gold or jewels or expensive
clothing;"(1 Timothy 2:9) Encourage your wife to be modest in public
and erotic in private with you. A modest woman is a lady. There is so
much sin and temptation that results from women showing too much skin
in public. Just think of the pleasure of knowing that no one sees too
much of your wife's legs but you! You will be shocked at how this one
maneuver will increase your feelings of masculinity and her feelings
of femininity.
8. "Do not be captivated by other women."(Proverbs 5:20) Finding other
women attractive and looking at them will degrade your view of your
own wife, because you will start to compare her with them. You will be
less satisfied with her, and she will feel less special to you. No man
can build a habit of glances without subconsciously doing it in his
wife's company, and she will definitely notice and be hurt. Remember
to be captivated with your wife and no one else. She will feel like
the Queen of the world as you fall more and more in love with her.
9. "Call your wife 'blessed' and praise her."(Proverbs 31:28-29) Tell
her that she is special and that she is greater than any other woman
on earth. Don't just mention her physical beauty, but compliment her
on her care for you, her hard work, and her lady-like attributes.
Watch the flower of your wife's heart blossom as you repeatedly fill
her ears with your praises. She longs for those words and she wants to
hear them from you! You may not want to cause her to be too prideful,
but your wife needs and longs to be treasured by you.
10 "Tell your wife how captivated you are with her body."(Song of
Solomon 4:7; 7:1-8) A true lover will make sure that his wife knows
that he finds no flaw in her. God made your wife, and God makes no
mistakes. If you find a part of her body flawed, then it is your mind
that needs to be changed. The responsibility upon the man to grow to
love, and express love, for every part of his wife is needed. Also,
respectfully and sensually tell her so. It will not help to criticize
her or to be sarcastic. If you do this, it will probably result in her
wanting to be less romantic with you less often. Think of how good she
will feel when both you and her truly believe that you are enamored
with every part of her!
11. "Honor your marriage; keep it pure by remaining true to your wife
in every way."(Hebrews 13:4) Jesus says that "lustful looks are
adultery."(Matthew 5:28) This is similar to "where your treasure is,
there will your heart be also..."(Luke 12:34). Do not treasure such
lust in any area of life. Deny it access to you heart. Keep your
marriage pure by training your heart and eyes to be true to your wife.
Your marriage will reap huge benefits if you do and will hopefully
last for a lifetime!
Thank the Lord for beauty and appreciate it, but keep your eye, joy,
mind and heart always and only on your wife.
12. "Be thankful for your wife and realize the favor you have received
from God."(Proverbs 18:22) Just think of how lonely you would be
without a wife. Adam was alone and it wasn't good for him to be alone,
so God gave him a wife. You have a lifetime companion, a friend, and a
lover to enjoy every day. What a blessing! Thank God and pray for her
daily. She is a tremendous "prize" from God.
13. "Be one flesh with your wife in every way."(Matthew 19:5) Enjoy
life with her as if you want to be inseparable from her. Long to be
with her, like you did when you first met. Rush home from work to see
her. Think about her during the day. Call her every day and text her
as much as you can. Learn as a couple to agree on everything and be
like-minded. Enjoy intimacy and sex often. You should have sex as
often as is necessary to meet the desires of whichever spouse has the
stronger sex drive, and as schedules and health permit. Spend time
just talking and sharing the day's events. Show a genuine interest and
listen intently to your wife. Give her your full attention and eye
contact anytime she is talking to you. Your wife is more important
than anything or anyone alive but Jesus Christ. Be unified and one
with your wife.
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