What does the Bible say about karma?

Karma is a theological concept found in the Buddhist and Hindu
religions. It is the idea that how you live your life will determine
the quality of life you will have after reincarnation. If you are
unselfish, kind, and holy during this lifetime, you will be rewarded
by being reincarnated (reborn into a new earthly body) into a pleasant
life. However, if you live a life of selfishness and evil, you will be
reincarnated into a less-than-pleasant lifestyle. In other words, you
reap in the next life what you sow in this one. Karma is based on the
theological belief in reincarnation. The Bible rejects the idea of
reincarnation; therefore, it does not support the idea of karma.

Hebrews 9:27 states, "Just as man is destined to die once, and after
that to face judgment…" This Bible verse makes clear two important
points which, for Christians, negate the possibility of reincarnation
and karma. First, it states that we are "destined to die once,"
meaning that humans are only born once and only die once. There is no
endless cycle of life and death and rebirth, an idea inherent in the
reincarnation theory. Second, it states that after death we face
judgment, meaning that there is no second chance, like there is in
reincarnation and karma, to live a better life. You get one shot at
life and living it according to God's plan, and that is it.

The Bible talks a lot about reaping and sowing. Job 4:8 says, "As I
have observed, those who plow evil and those who sow trouble reap it."
Psalm 126:5 says, "Those who sow in tears will reap with songs of
joy." Luke 12:24 says, "Consider the ravens: They do not sow or reap,
they have no storeroom or barn; yet God feeds them. And how much more
valuable you are than birds!" In each of these instances, as well as
all the other references to reaping and sowing, the act of receiving
the rewards of your actions takes place in this life, not in some
future life. It is a present-day activity, and the references make it
clear that the fruit you reap will be commensurate with the actions
you have performed. In addition, the sowing you perform in this life
will affect your reward or punishment in the afterlife.

This afterlife is not a rebirth or a reincarnation into another body
here on earth. It is either eternal suffering in hell (Matthew 25:46)
or eternal life in heaven with Jesus, who died so that we might live
eternally with Him. This should be the focus of our life on earth. The
apostle Paul wrote in Galatians 6:8-9, "The one who sows to please his
sinful nature, from that nature will reap destruction; the one who
sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life. Let
us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap
a harvest if we do not give up."

Finally, we must always remember that it was Jesus whose death on the
cross resulted in the reaping of eternal life for us, and that it is
faith in Jesus that gives us this eternal life. Ephesians 2:8-9 tells
us, "For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this
not from yourselves, it is the gift of God—not by works, so that no
one can boast." Therefore, we see that the concept of reincarnation
and karma is incompatible with what the Bible teaches about life,
death, and the sowing and reaping of eternal life.

What does the Bible say about failure?

To fail from time to time is only human, but to be a "failure" is when
we are defeated by failure, refusing to rise and try again. Christians
sometimes believe they should be immune to failure by virtue of their
relationship with God, but the truth is that God often allows us to
fail for a variety of reasons. Job 14:1 says, "Man born of woman is of
few days and full of trouble." That doesn't say "unbelievers" or "the
ungodly." It says man born of woman. What does that mean? Everyone.
Life is full of trouble, even for those who belong to God through
faith in Christ. We are to expect it. This means God does not promise
life to be without problems, sorrow, and, yes, failure, just because
we believe in Him.

Luke 9:1-5 describes how Jesus sent His disciples out to preach the
gospel and perform miracles. He also taught them how to handle
failure. "If people do not welcome you, shake the dust off your feet
when you leave their town, as a testimony against them." Jesus wanted
the soon-to-be apostles to model themselves after Him. He gave them
power and authority over devils, power to heal the sick, etc. Most of
all, Jesus wanted them to have boldness. He knew that not everyone was
going to receive the truth about Him, but in saying "Shake the dust
from your feet," He meant for them to move on and plow forward.
Witnessing and being rejected can make us feel like failures, but if
we understand we are to expect it (John 15:18), what appears to be
failure actually becomes a badge of honor.

When we feel failure come against us, our first reaction may be to run
or give up. When it comes to sin, we are all capable of avoiding it.
Even in complete love, faith and devotion to God, we can fall, but God
is not shocked by this which is why He sent His Son to die for our
sins. We get back up again, and we start over. But we should know that
we cannot do it alone. We must keep our eyes on our Savior, following
and obeying Him and laying aside the sin that inevitably leads to
spiritual failure, as Hebrews 12:1 says, "Let us throw off everything
that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with
perseverance the race marked out for us." God has marked out a course
for each of us, and sometimes that course includes failure. But when
we cling to the Savior, even our failures can be turned into successes
by the One who controls all things and who strengthens us in our
weakness (Philippians 4:11-13). Our ultimate victory in Jesus is
assured, but complete victory will only come when we are out of this
world of temptation and safe in the arms of the Lord in heaven.

Does the Bible say to follow your heart?

There are many calls to "follow your heart" in movies, novels,
slogans, blogs, and memes. Related pieces of advice are "trust
yourself" and "follow your instincts." A corollary dictum is "your
heart will never lead you astray." The problem is that none of these
quips are biblically supportable.

Rather than trust our hearts, we are to commit our hearts to God:
"Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own
understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your
paths straight" (Proverbs 3:5–6). This passage gives an explicit
command not to trust ourselves. And it gives the promise of guidance
to those who choose to follow the Lord.

For anything to provide proper direction it must be based on objective
truth. That is to say that whatever is consulted for guidance must
reach a conclusion based on objective truth and not subjective,
emotional inference. The Bible teaches that man is to follow God. God
declares, "Blessed is the one who trusts in the LORD, whose confidence
is in him" (Jeremiah 17:7). God has perfect knowledge of everything (1
John 3:20), a trait often called omniscience. God's knowledge is not
limited in any way. God is aware of all events that have ever
transpired, are currently occurring, and will ever happen (Isaiah
46:9–10). God's knowledge goes beyond mere events and extends to
thoughts and intentions (John 2:25; Acts 1:24). It is not all this
knowledge, however, that makes God a perfectly reliable source of
guidance. God is also aware of every possibility, every eventuality,
every imaginable outcome of any series of events (Matthew 11:21). That
ability, combined with God's goodness, enables God to give the best
possible direction for people to follow.

God says this about the unregenerate heart: "The heart is deceitful
above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?" (Jeremiah
17:9). This passage makes clear two reasons why no one should bind
himself to following his heart when making decisions. First, there is
nothing more deceitful in all of creation than the heart of man
because of his inherited sin nature. If we follow our heart, we follow
an untrustworthy guide.

We are, in fact, blinded to our own heart's deceitful nature. As the
prophet asks, "Who can understand it?" When we rely on ourselves for
wisdom, we end up unable to tell right from wrong.

Second, Jeremiah 17:9 teaches that the heart is desperately sick.
There is no way to fix the heart. Rather, man needs a new heart. That
is why, when a person comes to faith in Christ, he is made a new
creation (2 Corinthians 5:17). Jesus does not fix the heart; instead,
He replaces it with a new one.

But that does not mean that we can rely on our hearts after we come to
faith in Christ. Even as believers, we are encouraged to follow God's
will over our own desires. The Bible teaches that "the flesh desires
what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the
flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do
whatever you want" (Galatians 5:17).

We have an omniscient, benevolent Lord who promises to give us wisdom
(James 1:5); we have His inspired, inerrant Word written down for us
(2 Timothy 3:16). Why would we turn our backs on God and His eternal
promises in order to pursue the whimsical impulses of the heart?

What can we learn from the man of God and the lying prophet?

In 1 Kings 13 we read of a person called only a "man of God" who was
sent by the Lord from Judah to prophesy against King Jeroboam of
Israel. He declared, "O altar, altar, thus says the LORD: 'Behold, a
son shall be born to the house of David, Josiah by name, and he shall
sacrifice on you the priests of the high places who make offerings on
you, and human bones shall be burned on you'" (verse 2). The unnamed
prophet also gave a sign: "Behold, the altar shall be torn down, and
the ashes that are on it shall be poured out" (verse 3).

Jeroboam sought to seize the man, "but the hand he stretched out
toward the man shriveled up, so that he could not pull it back" (1
Kings 13:4). At the same moment, "the altar was split apart and its
ashes poured out according to the sign given by the man of God by the
word of the Lord" (verse 5). The king asked for the man of God to pray
for him and his hand. When he healed the king's hand, the king
attempted to reward him, but the man of God replied, "So was it
commanded me by the word of the LORD, saying, 'You shall neither eat
bread nor drink water nor return by the way that you came'" (verse 9).

This man of God was careful to keep God's three-fold command. He ate
nothing and drank nothing, and he began to walk a different way home.
However, on his way home, another, older prophet came to him, saying,
"I also am a prophet as you are, and an angel spoke to me by the word
of the LORD, saying, 'Bring him back with you into your house that he
may eat bread and drink water'" (verse 18). But this second prophet
was lying. No angel had visited him, and God had not spoken to him
regarding the matter. But the man of God believed the old prophet and
went home with him. At supper the old prophet suddenly received a true
word from God: "This is what the Lord says: 'You have defied the word
of the Lord and have not kept the command the Lord your God gave you.
You came back and ate bread and drank water in the place where he told
you not to eat or drink. Therefore your body will not be buried in the
tomb of your ancestors" (1 Kings 13:21–22). When the man of God left,
"a lion met him on the road and killed him. And his body was thrown in
the road, and the donkey stood beside it; the lion also stood beside
the body" (verse 24).

The prophet who had lied buried the man of God in his own grave and
instructed his own sons to, upon his death, bury him beside the man of
God. In doing these things, the old prophet showed his sincere belief
that the prophet who died had been a true man of God—his prophecies
against the idolaters of Israel would come true (1 Kings 13:31–32).

This account concludes with a note on the king's stubborn refusal to
obey: "After this thing Jeroboam did not turn from his evil way, but
made priests for the high places again from among all the people. Any
who would, he ordained to be priests of the high places. And this
thing became sin to the house of Jeroboam, so as to cut it off and to
destroy it from the face of the earth" (1 Kings 13:33–34).

So we have a prophet who lied and a prophet who died. In this account
we see that both the godly and the ungodly face consequences for
disobedience to the Lord. The evil king faced judgment because of his
idolatry. And the man of God likewise faced judgment for his
disobedience. No one is above the rules.

We also see that sometimes temptations come from surprising quarters.
The king tempted the man of God to break God's command, but the man of
God refused. His guard was up, and there was no way he would disobey
God for the sake of dining with an evil king. However, when a fellow
prophet tempted the man of God to sin, he gave in. His guard was let
down, and he did disobey God for the sake of dining with a (seemingly)
genuine prophet.

When God speaks, the matter is settled. There is never an excuse for
disobeying God's Word. Even a fellow believer—even an angel descending
from heaven—cannot nullify God's Word (cf. Galatians 1:8–9).

10 Women Christian Men Should Never Marry

Often in the quest towards marriage and finding "the one," something
happens. It's easy to overlook things that may not seem that big of a
deal while dating, but these things could be destructive patterns once
married. But love doesn't have to be blind. There's no reason to
settle for unhealthy or harmful relationships, simply to pursue being
married.

We all have sin issues that we deal with on a daily basis. We've all
made mistakes that we often wish we could do-over. We all need the
grace and freedom that only Christ Himself can offer. But our
marriages are healthier when we recognize red flags in our dating
relationships, instead of choosing not to see problems at all.

God cares about the decisions we make. He cares about who we marry.
And we can trust He will give guidance, and help us see some red flags
to be aware of along the way.


1. The Unbeliever – Be careful not to settle for less than what God
would want for the spiritual health and care of your marriage.
Marriage can be tough enough at times, add to that the pressure of
opposing spiritual views, and you may be in big trouble when the
normal stressors of life occur. If you hold vastly different beliefs
now, don't falsely assume you'll get her to "turn around," or change
her ways later. It may happen, but it may not.

"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has
righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with
darkness?" 2 Cor. 6:14

2. The Abuser – Many times "abusers" are assumed to be men, but women
struggle with this same trap too, and the man in her life may feel
like it's difficult to talk about the problem or find help. Men can
often become the invisible victims of relationship abuse and find
themselves dealing with deep levels of shame, guilt, and inadequacy.

Ps. 11:5 says, "The Lord examines the righteous, but the wicked and
those who love violence, he hates." This verse reminds us of how God
feels about the heart which instigates violence. No one deserves to be
abused. Ever. Move quickly away from the one who brings you physical,
verbal, or deep emotional harm. You are not their saving grace. That
is God's work. Marriage must be built on deep love and respect, and
abuse of any type has no place there.

3. The Controller, Manipulator – This person's subtle, dangerous
behavior can indicate big trouble ahead. What might be disguised as "I
just care about you," can really be a need for constant control or a
heart of jealousy. She may dominate and strive to make decisions for
you, especially in regards to whom you spend your time with. She might
check up on you frequently, keep close tabs, or falsely accuse you of
cheating on her. The one driven by control needs will have continual
issues with whether she can "trust you." Often, under her grasp, you
may start to feel like you can hardly breathe. It's suffocating. It's
supposed to be, that's how you're held tightly.

James 3:16 says, "For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there
will be disorder and every vile practice." And that is no place to
start a marriage.

4. The Angry, Contentious Woman – If your partner can't control her
temper before you're married, she most certainly won't after you're
married. In most cases, her behavior will worsen. No matter what our
personality type, it still doesn't give us room to plow over anyone in
our pathway with cruel words and rants. Take time to see how she
responds in different scenarios, especially when under pressure.

Proverbs 25:24, "It is better to live in a corner of the roof than in
a house shared with a contentious woman." This is more than, "I'm just
having a bad day." An angry, quarrelsome disposition has a pattern of
negativity, harsh words, and flaring tempers. The key is – does she
realize it's an area of weakness that she desires for God to change?
If the answer is "no," steer clear.

5. The Seducer – Behaviors established before marriage are not going
to magically go away once you say, "I do." Sexual sin can be a deep
trap of the enemy and once ensnared in these destructive patterns,
they are difficult to break. Yet the pain or mistakes of the past
should hold no control over our present and future. God redeems, sets
free, and desires to make us new.

Make the choice together to live by His standards in your
relationship. The lies of the world say that sex before marriage is
normal, no big deal. Yet it's a huge deal. Don't fall for the enemy's
lie. The heart of Christ seeks the best for the one they love,
desiring to build up, protect, and encourage healthy, safe patterns.

In the story of Joseph in Genesis 39, we see Potiphar's wife pursuing
him with sexual advances day after day. It was relentless. But he did
not fall. The Bible says, "he fled." Wise man.

6. The Deceiver, Liar - Every marriage must be built on trust. Without
this as a firm foundation, you're in for trouble from the beginning.
So what about those "little white lies" you started noticing along the
way? In reality, there's no such thing as little white lies. Any lie
is meant to hide, deceive, or manipulate truth. There is no room for
dishonesty in a healthy, loving relationship. It's a dangerous trap
and you will always be left wondering what she's hiding.

In Judges 16, we read the story of Delilah, who plotted and tricked
the strong man Samson, ultimately deceiving him. He was foolishly
lured by her entices and fell into deep destruction because of it.
Left to our own thoughts, we, like Samson, may miss the signal that
there's trouble ahead.

7. The Addict – This person needs freedom that can only come by
admitting there's a problem, seeking professional help and leaning on
the strength that God can bring. Addiction to alcohol, drugs,
pornography, or destructive habits will lead to deep troubles ahead.
And though your relationship may seem to challenge her in the right
direction, don't be fooled that she'll so quickly "give it all up for
you," without the aid and accountability of professional help.

You are not the one to set her free and your role is not to try to
change their heart. Only God can do that. 1 Cor. 6:12 says, "All
things are lawful for me, but not all things are profitable. All
things are lawful for me, but I will not be mastered by anything."

8. The Narcissist, Diva - No matter how beautiful, talented, and
charming she may seem, marriage is built on the word "together." If
the relationship before marriage seems to constantly be all about her,
you may be in for some struggle ahead. The "Diva" generally refers to
one who demands the center of attention and focus at the expense of
others' feelings. Humility, compassion, love, and respect are much
more admirable characteristics than simply the externals. "Charm is
deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be
praised" Prov. 31:30.

9. The Gold Digger/Big Spender - Secretive spending habits? More
interested in your bank account or what you can buy her, than in you?
Once married, these patterns can worsen when the stressors of family
life and responsibilities mount high. Money problems and financial
struggles are one of the main causes of divorce. Look for the red
flags and decide up front if the two of you can agree on the big
issues. "For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some
people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced
themselves with many griefs" 1 Tim. 6:10.

10. The One Who Won't Leave the Nest – It's difficult to live a future
of becoming one flesh when either partner is still joined too tightly
to their parents. Nothing wrong with having close, healthy
relationships with our parents throughout life, until you allow it to
consume your decision making or control your marriage. Parents are
meant to offer protection to children, even adult children. But upon
marriage, the spouse should be given that primary place of leadership
and care, under God's authority. Talk about healthy boundaries before
you marry, don't dismiss it as "no big deal." You may find out later
how big a deal it was. "For this reason a man shall leave his father
and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one
flesh." Gen. 2:24

The healthiest marriages are not made up of two seemingly "perfect"
people, but two forgiven people who have the capacity, by the grace of
God, to keep offering forgiveness to one another.

God's Word gives guidance for marriage and offers plenty of examples
for wise living. It really comes down to a choice. What do we believe
about what He says, and will we look to Him for wisdom in
relationships and in how we live our lives?

There's a battle over marriages today, and the enemy would love
nothing more than to destroy yours before it's hardly even begun, or
to entice you into a harmful one. Don't let Him win. Search God's Word
for what He has to say. His are the words that matter most.

10 MEN CHRISTIAN WOMEN SHOULD NOT MARRY

Divorce for Christians (except for 1 reason) is never permitted by
God. Hence, you must choose well. Outside of your decision to follow
Jesus, marriage will be your 2nd greatest decision in life. So, here's
my take on a paramount issue.

10 Men Christian Women Should Not Marry:

1. The Unbeliever. Seems quite simple, but I've met too many who've
married unbelievers thinking that they'll change them. Rarely happens.
"Missionary Dating" is unbiblical and will only rob you of true
marital bliss. Remember that God forbids it: "Do not be yoked together
with unbelievers." (2 Cor 6:14)

What then, is a believer?  A Christian essentially is someone who
believes in the gospel of Jesus Christ.  What then, is the gospel?
The gospel is: 1. God is holy, loving, and just.  He therefore, must
condemn all sinners to punishment in the flames of eternal hell;  2.
You and I are all sinners who deserve nothing but God's wrath in hell
after our deaths; 3. God loved humanity so much that He sent His only
Son, Jesus (who was fully God and fully man), to die on the cross for
your sins.  Jesus paid the debt for your sins and absorbed God's wrath
on your behalf.  3 days later, Jesus resurrected from the dead; 4. If
you repent (turn from) all your sins and personally put your faith in
Jesus Christ as your Lord, God and Savior, then you will have eternal
life.

2. The Younger Man. Now, I wouldn't necessarily call this one a sin,
but I would certainly say that it is not God's ideal. (And why would
you want anything less than God's ideal for marriage?)  We all know
that wives are called to submit to their husbands, as to the Lord (Eph
5:22). God explicitly calls men to be the spiritual leaders of their
families. En route to making the first marriage, God created Adam
first, and then Eve. Did God have a wise reason for creating Adam
first or was the first marriage randomly constructed by God?
According to the apostle Paul, it was not done arbitrarily. Instead,
this was done for the sake of authority. As Paul informs us, authority
flows from chronology: "I do not permit a woman to teach or to
exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet. For
Adam was formed first, then Eve" (1 Timothy 2:13-14). In other words,
age matters–generally within society but especially within marriage
(hence, Paul's use of "Adam and Eve").  Evidently, within the First
Marriage, God intended chronology (age) to be a reason for authority.

I would definitely call for wives who are already married in this
situation to still submit to their younger husbands as the Bible
commands (divorce is not an option), but they'll need an extra measure
of God's grace as the natural fallen tendency of all daughters of Eve
is to usurp their husbands' authority (Gen 3:16). To those who are not
yet wed, I would plead with you to marry an older Christian man. It is
God's ideal and your marriage will be happier for it.

Don't want to believe that God knew what He was doing when He
intentionally made the male older in the First Marriage?  Okay then,
here's some statistics from secular research that backs up God's
wisdom:

"If you're a woman two or more years older than your husband, your
marriage is 53 percent more likely to end in divorce than if he was
one year younger to three years older."

Marrying an older man shortens a woman's lifespan, but having a
younger husband reduces it even more, the study found.

A new study shows that women who marry men seven to nine years younger
than they are increase their mortality risk by 20 percent.

3. The Spiritually Younger Man. Though age is important, a man's
spiritual maturity is also important (and by the way, please don't
bamboozle yourself by saying, "Well, as long as he's SPIRITUALLY older
than me, his age doesn't matter–as I've laid out in point two, it does
matter!). Look for a man who will love you as Christ loved the Church
(Eph 5:25), and if he doesn't even know "how" Christ loved the Church,
then it's time for you to find another man. He must lead you as Christ
led His Church. Too many women date spiritually immature men who only
lead them to the murky waters of marital spiritual loneliness. Make
sure he's grounded in a local church. Speak to his pastor and his
elders. Have devotionals together. Marriage is a serious decision.
Take serious steps.

4. The Divorced Man. This one's fairly straight-forward in Scripture:
"Everyone who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery,
and he who marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery"
(Luke 16:18;

Bottom line: Any 2nd marriage is adultery in the eyes of God, unless
the 1st marriage terminated due to adultery.

What to do if you're in a 2nd marriage that's really viewed as
adultery in the eyes of God?  Same thing I would advise a "married"
gay couple if they came to faith in Christ–immediately break it up!
Of course, it won't be emotionally easy, but the eternal destiny of
your soul depends upon a correct response on this issue (1 Cor 6:9).


5. The Angry Man. Men who cannot control their emotions prior to
marriage will, in all likelihood, be angry men after marriage. Try not
to rationalize this one by saying, "Well, I deserved that…I made him
angry." Outbursts of anger are bouts of sin and there's no excuse.
Furthermore, those things usually turn into domestic abuse later on.
Remember, marriage is about love. I know, it sounds easy to remember,
but you'd be surprised.
"Fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness,
orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before,
that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God."
(Galatians 5:20-21 ESV)

6. The Self-Admirer. I know, I know, you want a good looking spouse.
That desire is not a bad thing. But if a man is spending more time at
the gym and in front of the mirror than at church and in God's Word,
then that man won't love you as Christ loved the Church. In fact, he
won't love you–period. He loves himself and he probably just wants you
for physical pleasure. If he's changing profile pictures often,
obsessing over his looks and photo angles, then be wary. "For
everything in the world–the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes,
and the pride of life–comes not from the Father but from the world."
(1 John 2:16)

7. The Dishonest. Marriage is built on trust. Without it, the entire
enterprise quickly unravels. Women, if he's lied to you before
marriage, he'll keep it up after. If he's having sex before marriage,
he'll likely cheat on you after marriage. Look for a honest guy. Pray
for one. Remember that the devil is the father of lies (John 8:44).

8. The Addict. Whether it's porn or drugs, if you've discovered that
your boyfriend is an addict, stop dating him and talk to his church
leaders about it. At the moment, the man needs help–not a wife. Men
who've covered up their sins while continuing to go to church are some
of the worst deceivers. They're also usually self-deluded. And no
matter how much he pleads with you, let it go. The man needs Jesus–not
a woman. Until the bondage is broken, release him to Christ (Exodus
20:3).

9. The Idle. If his idea of an ideal marriage is letting you work
while he stays home sleeping and relaxing, then you should find
another man. There is a deep theology to work and in fact, if the man
is not providing for his family, the Bible calls him worse than an
unbeliever (1 Timothy 5:8).

10. The Un-Evangelist. Okay, maybe I made up the term, but the point
is clear (Mark 16:15). If the man says that he believes in the gospel
of Jesus Christ–meaning that there is 1. a literal hell awaiting
unbelievers, 2. grace and pardon available to all who put their faith
in Jesus–but he simultaneously does NOT evangelize…does he really
believe? Does he really love God? Does he really love people? Will he
ever love you the way Christ loved and died for His Church (when
evidently, he's too ashamed to even proclaim the death of Christ)?

Self-proclaimed atheist Penn Jillette once put it well:
"I've always said that I don't respect people who don't proselytize. I
don't respect that at all. If you believe that there's a heaven and a
hell, and people could be going to hell or not getting eternal life,
and you think that it's not really worth telling them this because it
would make it socially awkward—and atheists who think people shouldn't
proselytize and who say just leave me alone and keep your religion to
yourself—how much do you have to hate somebody to not proselytize? How
much do you have to hate somebody to believe everlasting life is
possible and not tell them that? I mean, if I believed, beyond the
shadow of a doubt, that a truck was coming at you, and you didn't
believe that truck was bearing down on you, there is a certain point
where I tackle you. And this is more important than that."

All that's very true. How much do you have to hate somebody to not
evangelize? "How much do you have to hate somebody to believe
everlasting life is possible and not tell them that?" Unless, of
course, he really doesn't believe…but then, we would discover
ourselves back at warning point number 1 of this post.

Choose well, ladies. The church loves you and prays for you to have
delightful, God-honoring marriages. May God bless and guide your way.

Who are the poor in spirit?

QUESTION: Jesus taught about the "poor in spirit" in one of his
messages found in the book of Matthew. Who are these people? Do they
still exist today?

ANSWER: Jesus began to teach about those whose spirit was poor, near
the beginning of his public ministry. He used this topic as the
foundational teaching on which he would not only explain and reveal
the full intent of the Old Testament's laws but also as the starting
point on how true Christians should think and act in their everyday
lives. His discussion on the subject starts what is commonly called
the Sermon on the Mount, which is arguably his most famous message.

1. But seeing the multitudes, He went up into the mountain; and when
He sat down, His disciples came to Him. 2. And He opened His mouth and
taught them, saying, 3. "Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is
the kingdom of heaven . . ." (Matthew 5:1 - 3, HBFV Bible throughout)

Surprisingly, only the book of Matthew (chapters 5 to 7) writes about
the details of his message with the book of Luke (chapter 6) recording
only select pieces. The opening sentences of this "sermon" are often
called the Beatitudes or "beautiful attitudes" because they talk about
the attitudes God highly prizes.

So, what exactly was the Lord discussing? One hint in understanding
what Christ was referring to can be found by noticing the word
"spirit" in verse 3 above. In the Holy Bible Faithful Version, and
most other translations such as the KJV, NKJV, NIV and others, the
word does not start with a capital letter. This signifies that the
word is understood to not refer to the Holy Spirit, which is what
makes someone a Christian (Romans 8:9), but to something else.

"Spirit" in this verse is referring to a person's frame of mind or
their attitude. It is how a person thinks about the world around them
and their own personal relationship with the Eternal.  Regarding the
meaning of the whole phrase in question, some commentaries state the
following in their notes on Matthew 5:3.

"To be poor in spirit is to have a humble opinion of ourselves; to be
sensible that we are sinners, and have no righteousness of our own . .
." (Barnes' Notes on the New Testament)

"Poorness of spirit involves (1) Humility, (2) Contentment, (3)
Submission, (4) Gratitude" (The Biblical Illustrator)

"Poverty of spirit is the opposite of pride, self-righteousness, and
self-conceit; the spirit of the publican rather than of the Pharisee .
. ." (A Commentary on the Holy Bible by J.R. Dummelow)

As was mentioned in the last comment above, an excellent contrast
between the self-exalting arrogance God dislikes (especially among
religious people) versus the humble and contrite heart he is looking
for is found in the parable of the Pharisee and the publican.

9. And to some who trusted in themselves that they were righteous, and
despised others, He also spoke this parable: 10. "Two men went up into
the temple to pray; the one was a Pharisee and the other a tax
collector. 11. The Pharisee stood and prayed with himself in this
manner: 'God, I thank You that I am not like other men - extortioners,
unrighteous, adulterers - or even as this tax collector . . .'

13. "And the tax collector, standing afar off, would not even lift up
his eyes to heaven, but beat himself on the chest, saying, 'God, be
merciful to me, a sinner.' 14. I tell you, this man went down to his
house justified, rather than the other. For everyone who exalts
himself shall be humbled; and the one who humbles himself shall be
exalted" (Luke 18:10 - 11, 13 - 14)

Those who have this "poor" attitude realize, in the core of their
being, their utter need for God and their inability to save
themselves. They are keenly aware that they humbly need his help and
mercy every moment of every day. One popular worship song that conveys
this understanding, found in many church hymnals, is called "I Need
Thee Every Hour." It is a beautiful hymn sung with meaning for those
who have become aware of their utter dependency on the Eternal to help
them make it though life. Those who have this attitude are indeed
blessed. Jesus stated they should rejoice and be filled with joy for
great is their reward in heaven (Matthew 5:12)! It is a state of mind
that all Christians should strive to attain.

The man who is poor in spirit is the man
who has realized that things mean nothing,
and that God means everything.
William Barclay (1907 - 1978)

The END of the WORLD

Humans seem to have a fascination about the end of the world. Many
people, like the first century disciples, want to know what will be
the signs that will signal Christ's return (Matthew 24:3). Knowing
this interest with the prophetic "last days," countless ministries,
would-be prophets and even Hollywood have supplied an continuous
stream of material promoting their speculations regarding the events
to take place during the End Time. Many even attempt to predict the
year, or even the month, Jesus will come back to earth.
This fascination with the 'end of the world as we know it' may be due,
in part, to the fact that the events leading up to and including the
Second Coming of Christ are mentioned at least 318 times in the New
Testament. According to the Encyclopedia of Bible Facts, information
related to his return is mentioned more than any other doctrine.

Jesus told his disciples, clearly and directly, that no one will be
able to figure out the exact time when the end of the world will occur
and man's sad dominion on the earth will cease. Yet many 'false
prophets' seem determined to prove our Savior wrong!

36. But concerning that day, and the hour (of when the end will come),
NO ONE KNOWS, not even the angels of heaven, but My Father only . . .
42. Watch, therefore, because YOU DO NOT KNOW in what hour your Lord
is coming . . . 44. Therefore, you also be ready. For the Son of man
is coming at a time that YOU DO NOT THINK. (Matthew 24:36, 42, 44,
HBFV throughout unless stated)

We have a three-fold admonition from Jesus, who was and is God, that
not even called and converted Christians will be able to figure out
when the end of man's civilization and the beginning of Jesus' reign
on earth will happen!

Events before Christ's return
Although the Bible does not give us the exact time of Christ's Second
Coming, it does give a broad outline of what events MUST occur before
the completion of the age. Some of these events will no doubt occur
within a relatively short span of time while others will take YEARS,
perhaps decades, to reach their fullness.

Before everything is completely destroyed, MANY end time false
prophets and false Messiahs will come to deceive the masses and offer
false hopes (Matthew 24:4 - 5, 26 - 27).

A global time of trials and troubles will occur (Great Tribulation)
the likes of which has never been seen. There will be wars, rumors of
wars, earthquakes, famines and more, yet some people and nations will
still prosper (see Revelation 18:9 - 19).

The whole world will be deceived, through false signs and wonders, to
worship a false Messiah. A mark or sign will designate who willingly
worships and obeys the false system. The Beast and False Prophet will
deceive and rule humanity for 3 1/2 years (Revelation 13 - 14).

God's Two Witnesses will be given unprecedented power for 3 1/2 years
to call upon all humans to repent and prepare themselves for the
imminent return of Christ (Revelation 11:3 - 7).

Almost all true Christians, who are those who obey God and keep his
commandments (Matthew 24:9, Revelation 12:17, 14:12, 22:14), will be
afflicted, persecuted and hunted down. They will be slaughtered in
great numbers (Matthew 24:9, Revelation 6:10 - 11, 12:11, 17, 13:7).

Four demonic spirits will be released from the Euphrates River to
wreak havoc on the earth (Revelation 9:13 - 15). Shortly thereafter
the river will be DRIED UP to allow the entire world, near the very
end, to gather themselves together in a place called the valley of
Megiddo (from where we get the term Armageddon) to make war against
Jesus as he returns to earth (Revelation 16:12, 14, 17:12 - 14).

The ultimate outcome of all these events would be the annihilation of
ALL human life if God did not intervene (Matthew 24:21 - 22).

In conclusion
Some people seem willing to believe almost anything that seems
credible to them - anything, that is, except the Bible. Although the
exact time of the end of the world is not delineated in Scripture, we
are told that certain major events WILL and MUST occur before the Lord
arrives to save mankind from himself. Those who offer fanciful
speculations or try to convince people they know the exact moment of
our Savior's return should not be taken seriously.

What is repentance?

What does the Bible say about repentance? Can a person save themselves
if they obey God? Are we required to DO anything BEFORE we can receive
the gift of the Holy Spirit? What is the role of obedience and good
works in the life of a Christian?
First, let us begin with a Biblical definition of what this article
discusses. Repentance is remorse and sorrow for the sins we have
committed. Sin is the transgression of God's holy and perfect laws,
whether in the letter or in the spirit (intent of). The apostle Paul
states in the book of Ephesians the following.

"For by grace you have been saved through faith, and this especially
is not of your own selves; it is the gift of God, Not of works, so
that no one may boast." (Ephesians 2:8-9, HBFV)
No work or effort on the part of any person will ever 'earn' them
salvation. Eternal life is a gift. However, the Bible teaches not only
repentance but that believers must obey God. How can this be?

The law of God is a critical Biblical subject both in the Old and in
the New Testaments. We do not have to go very far into the gospels
before we run into statements about God's laws. In fact, near the very
beginning of Jesus' well-known Sermon on the Mount he states about
obeying God.

17 'Do not think that I have come to do away with the Law of Moses and
the teachings of the prophets. I have not come to do away with them .
. .18 Remember that as long as heaven and earth last, not the least
point nor the smallest detail of the Law will be done away with'
(Matthew 5:17-18)

From Jesus' statement we can only conclude that since heaven and earth
are still here, God's law have not been "done away with" but are still
in effect! In the book of Revelation the apostle John writes that
commandment keeping will still exist in the end time before Jesus'
return (Revelation 14:12).
Obedience to God is repeated many times in God's word, especially
those of the apostle John. Notice how direct and blunt he is about
sin, repentance and obeying God's law.

"The one who says, 'I know Him,' and does not keep His commandments,
is a liar, and the truth is not in him." (1John 2:4, see also 3:4,
3:22, 5:3 and 2John 5-6)

What did Paul think about God's law?
"Therefore, the law is indeed holy . . . " (Romans 7:12)

Good works, meaning doing what is right in God's sight, are an
integral part of the life of a Christian (Ephesians 2:10). Paul lets
us know that those who do not obey will not be in his kingdom
(1Corinthians 6:9-10).

Each of the Ten Commandments, given to Moses on Mount Sinai, are
repeated either exactly or with words conveying the same thing in the
New Testament. These reiterated commandments from the Eternal show the
standard against which repentance is needed.

Repentance then conversion
On Pentecost, just days after Jesus ascended to heaven, God empowered
the disciples by giving them His Holy Spirit and the miraculous
ability to extol and praise him in other languages. As people in
Jerusalem start to gather around the disciples to see what is
happening Peter gives a powerful message explaining the miracles that
were occurring and that Jesus was the true Savior of man. The crowd
who hear Peter have their consciences pricked. Peter then tells the
crowd the following.

"Then Peter said to them, 'Repent and be baptized each one of you in
the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and you yourselves
shall receive the gift of the Holy Spirit.'" (Acts 2:38)

In the Bible, the word REPENT comes from the Greek word metanoeo
(Strong's Concordance #G3340) which means to think differently or
reconsider and to begin to feel regret. Repentance begins to occur
when we fell sorry, remorsefully, etc. about the sins we have
committed --- our disobedience to God through the breaking of His
commandments. A person not only feels sorry for their sins but also
desires and begins to obey God, which Peter again states must occur
before he will give them the gift of his Spirit (Acts 5:32).

Loving
What God ultimately requires of us is summed up by Jesus.

And Jesus said to him, 'You shall love the Lord your God with all your
heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind.' (Matthew
22:37)

Does loving your neighbor mean simply thinking nice things about them?
No. It is the day to day application of the spirit and intent of God's
Laws. This includes helping our neighbor when they are in trouble,
safeguarding our property so that the neighbor does not hurt
themselves by falling into a hole, giving them money when they are in
need, etc. It means sharing our food with them if they are hungry or
getting them clothes they cannot afford. Now, how does someone love
God?

To love our Father in heaven is far more than attending church
services. To truly love God means to do what he says -- to obey his
commands, etc. It is obedience not to 'earn' the right to be saved but
out of our desire to do the will of God. On the night he was betrayed
Jesus taught the disciples about many things, including what it means
to love him and the Father. Jesus clearly linked love and obedience
when he said the following.

"If you love Me, keep the commandments - namely, My commandments. (John 14:15)

In the end, if we do not DO what is right --- if we do not obey our
Creator and Father --- then whatever faith we think we have is DEAD
and useless (James 2:24, 26).

This is what repentance is all about!

God's responses to prayer

What can you do in those instances when you know you have prayed for
something within God's will - and yet the answer to your prayer seems
to be SILENCE? You petition the Father in faith, yet his response is
nothing.
Don't be so sure that God's silence is His final answer or that it is
a "sign" for you to stop asking. If you have done everything right and
have made your petition in faith, consider His silence as an
invitation to approach Him and talk over the matter a little more. It
may be that God wants to see if you are willing to persist in your
request and pursue a definitive answer.

I am the Lord, and I created the whole world. 3 Ask me, and I will
tell you things that you don't know and can't find out. (Jeremiah 33)

7. And shall not God execute vengeance for His elect, who cry out to
Him day and night, and patiently watch over them? (Luke 18)

Don't give up until God answers you one way or another. When he does
respond it will be one of three answers: Yes, No and Wait.

The answer is YES

Of course, the answer all of us usually want from God regarding our
requests is a resounding YES!

Solomon, as a young and inexperienced King of Israel, asked God for
something he knew he greatly lacked - wisdom. God responded not only
with a loud YES, but gave him far more than he could have dared to
ask.

10 The Lord was pleased that Solomon had asked for this, 11 and so he
said to him, "Because you have asked for the wisdom to rule justly,
instead of long life for yourself or riches or the death of your
enemies, 12 I will do what you have asked. I will give you more wisdom
and understanding than anyone has ever had before or will ever have
again. 13 I will also give you what you have not asked for: all your
life you will have wealth and honor, more than that of any other king.
(1Kings 3, see also 2Chronicles 1:10-12)

The early church, after Peter was arrested by Herod, offered up
fervent prayers for him. What they received from God was nothing short
of miraculous. God personally sent one of his angels to free Peter of
his chains and escort him out of the prison in which he was held (Acts
12)!

They are, of course, many other examples in scripture where God grants
the request of those who pray to him.

The answer is NO

Like it or not, sometimes God's answer to our request is a flat NO.
Many times he does not give us what we want because we ask for
something to fulfill our own selfish desires and lusts.

3. Then you ask, and you do not receive, because you ask with evil
motives, that you may consume it on your own lusts. (James 4:3)

Moses, even though he wanted to enter the promised land with the rest
of Israelites, was kept from doing so by God because of his sin. He
was only allowed to view Canaan from a distance before he died
(Numbers 20:12, Deuteronomy 34:2-5). The apostle Paul wanted a painful
affliction taken away from him but was told no. God told Paul that his
grace (favor) was sufficient (2Corinthians 12:9). Even Jesus, the son
of God, was told NO when he asked that "the cup" of becoming sin for
us be taken from him (Matthew 26, see also Matthew 20:22-23).

The answer is WAIT

Having to wait and exercise patience is not easy, especially in a
society that expects instant gratification. Yet the character to wait
patiently and endure is something God wants in us (Romans 5:1-5).

I waited patiently for the Lord's help; then he listened to me and
heard my cry. (Psalm 40:1)

4 'All right,' I (Jeremiah) answered, 'I will pray to the Lord your
God, and I will tell you everything he says.' 7 TEN DAYS LATER, the
Lord gave me an answer (Jeremiah 42)

In the final analysis, believers can be confident that their prayers
to God do reach him for his loving consideration.

14. And this is the confidence that we have toward Him: that if we ask
anything according to His will, He hears us. 15. And if we know that
He hears us, whatever we may ask, we know that we have the requests
that we have asked of Him (1John 5:14-15)

Can a Christian go to heaven even if they have a sin habit?

Bible Question:

Even if you know Jesus is the Son of God and you keep habitually
committing a certain sins can you still be forgiven all of your sins
no matter what they are?


Bible Answer:
The reason a Christian usually has doubts about his or her salvation
or about God's forgiveness is because he or she is not confessing sin
and seeking to turn away from the sins he or she is committing. In 1
John the Holy Spirit tells us that this will happen, but He also says
that Christians will have confidence that they are God's children when
their conduct pleases God.

We shall know by this that we are of the truth, and shall assure our
heart before Him (NASB) 1 John 3:19

This is one mark of a true Christian.

Keeps His Word. God gives us several tests that we can use to
determine if we are Christians. One of these tests is found in 1 John
2. In this passage the apostle John writes,

By this we know that we have come to know Him, if we keep His
commandments. The one who says, "I have come to know Him," and does
not keep His commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him; but
whoever keeps His word, in him the love of God has truly been
perfected. By this we know that we are in Him: the one who says he
abides in Him ought himself to walk in the same manner as He walked.
(NASB) 1 John 2:3-6

Did you notice that those who know God (Christians) obey God? If we
say that we are Christians because we know that Jesus is the Son of
God but we keep sinning, we have deceived ourselves. We are not really
Christians. The mark of a Christian is that he or she "keeps His
word." But what does it mean to "keep"? This unlocks the meaning of
our passage. Does this mean that God expects us to obey Him perfectly?
If one commits one sin, then is he or she no longer a Christian? The
answer is no because the Greek word for "keep" does not have the idea
of "perfection" but of "guarding or watching." It has the idea of a
strong commitment to keep or obey. The meaning becomes clear just a
few verses later when we read,

If you know that He is righteous, you know that everyone also who
practices righteousness is born of Him. (NASB) 1 John 2:29

Little children, make sure no one deceives you; the one who practices
righteousness is righteous, just as He is righteous; the one who
practices sin is of the devil; for the devil has sinned from the
beginning. The Son of God appeared for this purpose, to destroy the
works of the devil. No one who is born of God practices sin . . .
(NASB) 1 John 3:7-9

These verses explain what the Holy Spirit means by "keep His Word." He
is talking about a pattern of life – a pattern of obedience – a
pattern of holy living. True Christians have a pattern of life which
is marked by a commitment to be holy.

. . . because it is written, "YOU SHALL BE HOLY, FOR I AM HOLY."
(NASB) 1 Pet. 1:16

Test Yourself. What does this mean if you have a pattern of ongoing
sin in your life and you say, "I am a Christian"? The answer is found
in the book of 1 Corinthians which was written to a group of people
whom the apostle Paul called "saints" or Christians (1 Cor. 1:2). Yet,
they were sinning so much that an entire book was written to rebuke
them for their sins. In 1 Corinthians, the apostle warns them to stop
following the supposed wisdom of the world (1 Cor. 1), ignoring the
teaching of teh Spirit of God (1 Cor. 2), being competitive in
ministry (1 Cor. 3), being arrogant (1 Cor. 4), ignoring Christians
who have an ongoing habit of sin (1 Cor. 5), taking one another to
court (1 Cor. 6), sinning in marriage (1 Cor. 7), ignoring the
spiritual sensitivity of other Christians to sin (1 Cor. 8-10),
ignoring the proper conduct of worship and submission (1 Cor. 11),
abuses in worship (1 Cor. 12-14), and teaching false doctrine (1 Cor.
15).

In 2 Corinthians the apostle Paul continues with another list of sins.
These Corinthians had some serious problems. Were they really
Christians? Should we be comforted because the apostle called them
"saints"? The answer is no. Why? Because the apostle himself was not
sure they were Christians. Listen to Paul at the end of 2 Corinthians,

Test yourselves to see if you are in the faith; examine yourselves!
(NASB) 2 Cor. 13:5

True Christians do not continue to practice sin. They fight to stop
and eventually find victory over their sin. The mark of a growing
Christian is victory over one sin after another sin. We must remember
that after we find victory over one, God then starts dealing with
another sin in our lives. Therefore, the apostle was concerned that
they might not be real Christians because of the sin in their life. He
encouraged them to evaluate or test themselves to see if they were
real Christians. Some other marks of a Christian are: you can
understand the Bible (1 Cor. 2:14; Heb. 5:11-14); you see the fruit of
the Holy Spirit growing in your life (Gal. 5:22-23); and you can sense
the Holy Spirit leading you (Rom. 8:14). These are the major ones. A
list of the marks of a Christian are available at this site.

Conclusion:
I would encourage you to test yourself to see if you are a Christian.
I would also encourage you to confess your sin to God every time you
commit this sin or sin(s) and to ask God to take control your life by
filling you with His Spirit (Eph. 5:17-18). This is the "will of God"
for each of us – to be filled with His Spirit. This is also the key to
victory over sin in your life. It is the same thing as "walking in the
Spirit" (Gal. 5:16-23). As you faithfully confess your sins, read the
Bible, and walk in the Spirit you will find victory over your sin.

No temptation has overtaken you but such as is common to man; and God
is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are
able, but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also, so
that you will be able to endure it. (NASB) 1 Cor. 10:13

Remember that God forgives every sin a Christian commits no matter what it is.

Says the LORD, "Though your sins are as scarlet, they will be as white
as snow; though they are red like crimson, they will be like wool.
(NASB) Isaiah 1:18

Can a Christian Commit Suicide and Still Be Saved?

One Second After Death

Like Lazarus and the rich man, immediately after death a person is in
a conscious state. They understand at the moment after they die
whether they are going to be judged and condemned to hell or they will
know Jesus and be in His presence immediately.

The apostle Paul understood that to be absent from the body was to be
present with the Lord as he wrote in II Corinthians 5:6-8: " Therefore
we are always confident and know that as long as we are at home in the
body we are away from the Lord. For we live by faith, not by sight. We
are confident, I say, and would prefer to be away from the body and at
home with the Lord." In verse one of this same chapter he says, "For
we know that if the earthly tent we live in is destroyed, we have a
building from God, an eternal house in heaven, not built by human
hands."

The understanding is that the moment one dies in the faith, they are
absent from earth but immediately present with the Lord. Paul doesn't
qualify this with "but if we kill ourselves then we will not be
present with the Lord." In fact in verse 5 he says, "Now the one who
has fashioned us for this very purpose is God, who has given us the
Spirit as a deposit, guaranteeing what is to come." Thus, God is
guaranteeing our delivery into the Lord's presence. But if you are not
born-again, then your fate, immediately after death is where the rich
man was. He was in eternal torment being tortured by fire and was
unable to cross over to the other side where God was (Luke 16:19-31).
If you die without Christ, your fate is sealed. This is why it is so
important that today you come to saving faith in Christ while it is
still called today for no one has any guarantee that tomorrow will
ever come (Heb. 4:7)

No Guarantees Apart from Christ

The rich man that died could never have any hope of going to heaven.
When a person dies without Christ, they can not choose to accept to
believe in Him then. It is too late. Those who think that they might
commit suicide take a great risk; that is a risk of spending eternity
apart from God.

If a person is not saved they will have to give an account for
everything that they have ever done or said in their entire life (Rev.
20). They will stand guilty and be judged for eternity by God
Almighty. Jesus can not help them then. If they commit suicide, they
will also have to pay the penalty for murder; that is murdering their
own selves. That will be a burden and everyone's suffering in eternal
torment is according to what they have done while alive on earth.
After a person dies without Christ they know that they are going to be
separated from God for all eternity; they will know this a split
second after they die. Then of course, it is too late to repent and be
saved.

God-Given Guarantee

Once a person is saved, that is born-again, there is no way that they
will ever be lost again. Not only that, they will not lose the reward
of heaven and being in the presence of Jesus Christ. Here are biblical
guarantees:

I Peter 1:3-5 "Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus
Christ! In his great mercy he has given us new birth into a living
hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, 4 and
into an inheritance that can never perish, spoil or fade. This
inheritance is kept in heaven for you, who through faith are shielded
by God's power until the coming of the salvation that is ready to be
revealed in the last time. "

Romans 8:38 "For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither
angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any
powers…"

Ephesians 1:13-14, 4:30 "And you also were included in Christ when you
heard the message of truth, the gospel of your salvation. When you
believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy
Spirit, 14 who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the
redemption of those who are God's possession—to the praise of his
glory." And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were
sealed for the day of redemption. "

2 Corinthians 5:5 "Now the one who has fashioned us for this very
purpose is God, who has given us the Spirit as a deposit, guaranteeing
what is to come."

Reflect on these words straight from the mouth of God since all
scripture is God-breathed and inspired by God Himself (II Tim 3:16).
God says about those who are saved that they are: sealed for the day
of redemption, guaranteed for what is to come, promised that you are
His possession, have a deposit for an eternal inheritance, an
inheritance that can never perish! Wow…yes, believe it. God would not
have you born-again only to abort you at the last moment. We are
saved, as Paul says, that not even the demons, or an angel, anything
in the future, past, or present, or even death itself could rob.

In Philippians 1:6 God says through Paul that "being confident of
this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to
completion until the day of Christ Jesus." God will complete what He
has started. No matter what happens. And yes, this includes someone
who takes their own life. Many biblical heroes have contemplated
suicide: Job, Jeremiah, Jonah, and even mighty Samson.

A Loss of Rewards

In I Corinthians 3: 12-15, Paul relates that we can lose rewards but
not our eternal life, as he writes, "If anyone builds on this
foundation using gold, silver, costly stones, wood, hay or straw,
their work will be shown for what it is, because the Day will bring it
to light. It will be revealed with fire, and the fire will test the
quality of each person's work. If what has been built survives, the
builder will receive a reward. If it is burned up, the builder will
suffer loss but yet will be saved—even though only as one escaping
through the flames." Read any Bible commentary on these verses and it
clearly shows that a Christian will receive rewards at the Bema
Judgment Seat of Christ. This is not to be confused with the Great
White Throne Judgment in Revelation 20 where those who died without
Christ are thrown into the lake of fire.

In I Corinthians chapter three, Paul speaks about some losing rewards
due to carnal works that will be burned up. Each Christian will be
rewarded by what they have done while on this earth; did they help the
poor, witness to the lost about the gospel, visit someone in the
hospital or prison, and so on. So even though a Christian can take
their own life, they will not lose their eternal life. They will lose
rewards yes, but not their eternal inheritance. Remember that if you
were born-again, you are sealed with a promise, guaranteed an
inheritance and God will complete in you what He has begun; even
despite our own selves.

Of course suicide is not a good way to end our earthly suffering. If
you are in an extended state of depression, please seek immediate
help. Anyone who is not saved and commits suicide is in serious
trouble for they will have the wrath of God upon them at the Great
White Throne Judgment Seat. If you find yourself in a serious,
extended state of depression, seek professional help immediately. I
pray that if you are not saved, you will know Jesus Christ today.
Accept the free gift of eternal life. All you have to do is believe
and acknowledge your sins before God. He will freely give you grace.
It is just that simple. Do this right now and nothing can ever
separate you from God…for all eternity.

Conclusion

Immediately after you die you will either be in Hell or Heaven.
Believers, when they die, are absent from the body and present with
the Lord (2 Cor 5:6-8). Eternal life is a guarantee and when a
believer takes his own life he will lose rewards in Heaven, but he
will not lose his place in Heaven. An unbeliever, when he dies, knows
a split second after death that they are eternally separated from God
(just like in the account of Lazarus and the rich man). After death it
is too late to be saved. There is help for those who are contemplating
suicide. Please seek help rather than death.

What should be the order of priorities in our family?

The Bible does not lay out a step-by-step order for family
relationship priorities. However, we can still look to the Scriptures
and find general principles for prioritizing our family relationships.
God obviously comes first: Deuteronomy 6:5, "Love the LORD your God
with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your
strength." All of one's heart, soul, and strength is to be committed
to loving God, making Him the first priority.

If you are married, your spouse comes next. A married man is to love
his wife as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25). Christ's first
priority—after obeying and glorifying the Father—was the church. Here
is an example a husband should follow: God first, then his wife. In
the same way, wives are to submit to their husbands "as to the Lord"
(Ephesians 5:22). The principle is that a woman's husband is second
only to God in her priorities.

If husbands and wives are second only to God in our priorities, and
since a husband and wife are one flesh (Ephesians 5:31), it stands to
reason that the result of the marriage relationship—children—should be
the next priority. Parents are to raise godly children who will be the
next generation of those who love the Lord with all their hearts
(Proverbs 22:6; Ephesians 6:4), showing once again that God comes
first. All other family relationships should reflect that.

Deuteronomy 5:16 tells us to honor our parents so that we may live
long and so things will go well with us. No age limit is specified,
which leads us to believe that as long as our parents are alive, we
should honor them. Of course, once a child reaches adulthood, he is no
longer obligated to obey them ("Children, obey your parents..."), but
there is no age limit to honoring them. We can conclude from this that
parents are next in the list of priorities after God, our spouses, and
our children. After parents comes the rest of one's family (1 Timothy
5:8).

Following one's extended family in the list of priorities are fellow
believers. Romans 14 tells us not to judge or look down upon our
brothers (v. 10) or do anything to cause a fellow Christian to
"stumble" or fall spiritually. Much of the book of 1 Corinthians is
Paul's instructions on how the church should live together in harmony,
loving one another. Other exhortations referring to our brothers and
sisters in Christ are "serve one another in love" (Galatians 5:13);
"be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just
as in Christ God forgave you" (Ephesians 4:32); "encourage one another
and build each other up" (1 Thessalonians 5:11); and "consider how we
may spur one another on toward love and good deeds (Hebrews 10:24).
Finally comes the rest of the world (Matthew 28:19), to whom we should
bring the gospel, making disciples of Christ.

In conclusion, the scriptural order of priorities is God, spouse,
children, parents, extended family, brothers and sisters in Christ,
and then the rest of the world. While sometimes decisions must be made
to focus on one person over another, the goal is to not be neglecting
any of our relationships. The biblical balance is allowing God to
empower us to meet all of our relationship priorities, inside and
outside our families.

Does God care about the little things that happen in our lives?

Of course, God cares about the little things in our lives, because
everything is "little" compared to God! Luke 12:7 says, "Indeed, the
very hairs of your head are all numbered. Don't be afraid; you are
worth more than many sparrows." God takes the time to keep up with how
many hairs we have—now that's a God of detail!

Throughout Scripture, we see that God is interested in more than just
the highlights of our lives as His children. He cares about every
aspect of who we are, because we are His creation made in His image
(see Genesis 1:27). He cares for all of His creations, including
plants, animals, and the environment. Matthew 6:26 says, "Look at the
birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and
yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable
than they?" If God even meets the needs of birds who are not made in
His image, who have no will to choose Him or reject Him, how much more
will he care for our needs in detail? Because of God's care, we can
trust Him: "Your Father knows what you need before you ask him"
(Matthew 6:8).

Throughout Jesus' earthly ministry, we see that He was interested in
the specifics of people's lives. Jesus has always been more interested
in quality than quantity. Jesus was sent to save the lost and bridge
the gap between man and God since the fall, but He still took the time
to meet the immediate needs of people He encountered. In Matthew
14:18–21 we see a clear picture of Jesus' compassion on the hungry
crowds. One meal in the lives of so many is but a detail, yet we have
an amazing account of His earnestness in providing a heaven-sent meal
for over 5,000 men, women, and children.

Children are "little things" and often seen to get in the way of the
more "important" things. In fact, once when people brought their
children to Jesus, the disciples rebuked them with the thought of
sending them away. "When Jesus saw this, he was indignant. He said to
them, 'Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for
the kingdom of God belongs to such as these'" (Mark 10:14). Jesus is
not too "big" or too busy to bless the children.

God does indeed care about the "little things" in our lives, because
He cares about us. Compared to Him and His glory, our whole lives are
made up of those "little things." Psalm 139:17–18 says, "How precious
to me are your thoughts, O God! How vast is the sum of them, Were I to
count them, they would outnumber the grains of sand. When I am awake,
I am still with you."

How should Christian parents respond if one of their children comes out as gay?

If a child reveals his or her homosexuality, the first thing for
Christian parents to do is let their child know that, no matter what,
love and grace will win the day. Mom and dad's love will continue,
regardless. First John 4:8 says, "The one who does not love does not
know God, for God is love." "God's kindness is intended to lead you to
repentance" (Romans 2:4).

All parents need to remember that our children (like ourselves) have
heart issues. We're not trying to put good fruit on bad trees; we are
passionately praying for our wayward children that God would change
the roots of the tree—that He might remove their heart of stone and
replace it with a heart of flesh (see Ezekiel 36:26).

Parents should also encourage a child who has "come out" not to define
himself as a "homosexual." It's important to ask questions: Are you in
a relationship? Is the relationship sexual or platonic? Have you acted
out your feelings of same-sex attraction, or are they just thoughts
you have? Parents can come alongside a struggling child and help him
see that he is not "gay" simply because he has homosexual thoughts.
Rather, he is struggling with homosexual desires or same-sex
attraction.

The difference between struggling with homosexuality and identifying
oneself as gay may seem subtle, but it is a huge distinction, and
here's why. God never created us to be homosexual. In Christ that is
not who we are. In Christ we are a new creation. Christians may
struggle with impatience, idolatry, lust, or pride. Christians may
struggle with same-sex attraction, but that does not make them
homosexuals. We are new creations in Christ.

So, Christian parents can approach their child as broken people and
offer to struggle together through their imperfections. It is
important that we never communicate to those who have same-sex
tendencies that their sin is the worst of all sins. Yes, homosexuality
is sinful, but not to a level above that of heterosexual lust or lying
or pride. The truth is we are all broken, and we all need help to
remain pure.

Also, Christian parents should make clear their biblical convictions,
but only after they have established a basis of love and grace and
empathy and compassion. Your children need to know that the Bible is
the supreme authority on all matters of faith and conduct. Not mom,
not dad, not peers, not the church. And the Bible says that
homosexuality is counter to God's intended purpose for human beings.
Sexuality must be heterosexual in nature and within the boundary of
marriage.

If a child says, "I am homosexual. That's the way it is, and I don't
care what God thinks," then clearly the parents are back at step one.
This child needs a serious heart change, and only God can change the
heart. Sin is a heart problem, and until God changes the heart and the
child is gripped by the grace of God, nothing will matter. A parent's
convictions will not matter. The letter of the law will not matter.
Love is key. It is what drove the prodigal son back to the arms of his
father (Luke 15:11–32), and it is, according to the apostle Paul, the
greatest of gifts (1 Corinthians 13:13).

How can I learn to not take offense at little things?

Trying to not take offense is like trying to not think about
elephants. If someone says, "Don't think about elephants," we
automatically think about them. If we focus on trying not to take
offense, we will keep thinking about the offense. This principle
applies to just about any sin a person can commit. When we focus on a
behavior, even in an attempt to eliminate it, the result is more of
that behavior. This is just how our minds work. Thankfully, there is
another, better way to address this problem.

People are lured and enticed into sin as a result of desire—wanting is
the beginning of sinning (James 1:14). Every sin or bad behavior
begins with desire. Desire itself is not bad; there are many good
desires. But the desires that lead to sin are wrong desires, the
desires based in false perspectives and misplaced expectations about
others and ourselves. To eliminate a bad behavior, we must first
discover the desire behind it.

For many people, the tendency to take offense at little things is
rooted in a false perspective of security. We all desire security and
safety; we desire the good opinion of others. We secure those good
opinions with performance: what we do, how we speak, how we dress, how
we express ourselves, etc. When our security is based on our
performance, we may feel threatened when someone expresses something
negative about us. The natural response to that threat is to take
offense or become angry. Even a casual, flippant, or offhand remark
can gnaw at us and steal our peace. The way to prevent taking offense
is to address our desire for security. As long as feelings of security
are rooted in ourselves, the tendency to take offense, even at the
little things, will exist. If, however, our feelings of security are
not rooted in ourselves or our performance, our perspective will
change and our response to the actions and comments of others will
become more balanced.

Remember the acronym COP.

Cover. Twice in the book of Proverbs, we are told to "cover" offenses
(Proverbs 10:12; 17:9). The covering of offense is related to love.
First Peter 4:8 says, "Love covers over a multitude of sins"—and that
"multitude" would have to include small slights. In any relationship,
there are many irksome things that should just be "covered" for the
sake of love. By covering an offense, or not revealing it to others,
we are empathizing with the offender and extending the benefit of the
doubt. Perhaps he did not mean what he said; perhaps we misunderstood.
Perhaps the offender was having a bad day or wasn't thinking straight.
Covering the offense of another helps us, too. Remember the elephant?
When we focus on the needs of the person who offended us, we no longer
think about how offended we feel.

Overlook. "A person's wisdom yields patience; / it is to one's glory
to overlook an offense"(Proverbs 19:11). Forgiveness is an honorable
thing. When you cover an offense, you give grace and empathy to the
offender. When you overlook an offense, you choose to give something
valuable to yourself—the reminder that your security is not based on
others' opinions of you but on the security you have in Christ (see
Ephesians 1:5–7).

Pray. Jesus told His disciples on multiple occasions that if they
prayed for anything in His name (or, according to His will) they would
have what they asked for. Do you believe that God wants you to be
angry with others, or forgiving of them? Do you believe that your
security is in Him, rather than in yourself? If you pray consistently,
asking Him to help you not take offense, He will answer that prayer.
If you ask Him to remind you of His secure and stedfast love, He will
answer that prayer. You can confidently pray for help in every
offending situation (Hebrews 4:16).

In Bethany, as Jesus was reclining at a table, a woman entered the
room with an alabaster jar of fine perfume. The woman broke the
container and anointed Jesus' head with the fragrant ointment (Mark
14:3). Immediately, she was criticized; in fact, "they rebuked her
harshly" (verses 4–5). The woman could have taken offense at their
words. It would have been natural for her to react in kind. But she
didn't have to. Jesus came to her defense: "Leave her alone" (verse
6). The woman's love of Christ and her meek response to an offense
were honored, and "wherever the gospel is preached throughout the
world, what she has done will also be told, in memory of her" (verse
9).

To sum up, when we take offense, it is because someone has hurt us or
frightened us. God has given us two ways to deal with the offense.
First, by remembering that the other person also has things that hurt
and frighten him. When we love the offender and focus on his needs
(cover and overlook), we will no longer notice the offense. Second, by
remembering that, when we belong to Christ, we are fundamentally
secure in Him; we do not need to react and defend ourselves, because
He has promised to defend us (Isaiah 35:3–4). When we struggle to
trust Him or to believe that we are secure in Him, all we need to do
is pray for the strength to do so, and we know that He will answer
(John 14:13–14).

Does God forgive the sins we will commit in the future, or just those from our past?

One of the Bible's greatest truths is that Christ died to take away
all our sins–not just part of them, but all of them: past, present,
and future.

This is why you shouldn't fear that you will lose your salvation every
time you commit a sin. If that were the case, you and I would lose our
salvation every day–because we sin every day. Even if our actions are
pure, our thoughts often are not. And even if our actions and thoughts
are pure, we still sin because of the good things we should be doing
but fail to do.

Never forget: Your salvation does not depend on you and how good you are.

It depends solely on Christ and what He has already done for you
through His death on the cross. The Bible says that Christ "appeared
once for all at the end of the ages to do away with sin by the
sacrifice of himself" (Hebrews 9:26).

Does that mean it doesn't matter whether or not you sin? No, of course
not. Sin is serious; it is an offense to God, and it breaks our
fellowship with Him. Sin also compromises our witness for Christ. The
Bible is clear: "Be holy, because I am holy" (1 Peter 1:16).

But you cannot live the Christian life in your own strength. You need
God's help–which is why He has given His Holy Spirit to you. When you
sin, confess it immediately, and then seek the Holy Spirit's help each
day to live as you should.

What does the Bible say about raising children?

God created the family. His design was for a man and a woman to marry
for life and raise children to know and honor Him (Mark 10:9; Malachi
2:15). Adoption is also God's idea, and He models this in His adoption
of us as His children (Romans 8:15, 23; Ephesians 1:5). Regardless of
the means by which they enter a family, children are a gift from God
and He cares about how they are raised (Psalm 127:3; Psalm 34:11;
Proverbs 23:13–14). When God gives us gifts, He also gives clear
instructions about their use.

When God led the Israelites out of bondage, He commanded them to teach
their children all He had done for them (Deuteronomy 6:6–7; 11:19). He
desired that the generations to come would continue to uphold all His
commands. When one generation fails to instill God's laws in the next,
a society quickly declines. Parents have not only a responsibility to
their children, but an assignment from God to impart His values and
truth into their lives.

Several places in Scripture give specific instructions to parents
about how to raise their children. Ephesians 6:4 says, "Fathers, do
not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the
discipline and instruction of the Lord." There are several ways
parents might provoke their children to anger. Some parents set
impossible standards so that a child despairs of ever achieving them.
Some parents tease, ridicule, or humiliate their children as a means
of punishment, which does nothing but provoke them to anger.
Inconsistency can also provoke to anger as a child is never sure about
the consequences of his actions. Hypocrisy provokes children to anger
when parents require behavior from children that the parents are not
choosing for themselves.

To "bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord" means
that parents should train their children the way God trains us. As a
Father, God is "slow to anger" (Numbers 14:18; Psalm 145:8), patient
(Psalm 86:15), and forgiving (Daniel 9:9). His discipline is designed
to bring us to repentance (Hebrews 12:6–11). His instruction is found
in His Word (John 17:17; Psalm 119:97), and He desires that parents
fill their homes with His truth (Deuteronomy 6:67).

He also disciplines His children (Proverbs 3:11; Hebrews 12:5) and
expects earthly parents to do the same (Proverbs 23:13). Psalm 94:12
says, "Blessed is the one you discipline, LORD, the one you teach from
your law." The word discipline comes from the root word disciple. To
discipline someone means to make a disciple of him. God's discipline
is designed to "conform us to the image of Christ" (Romans 8:29).
Parents can make disciples of their children by instilling values and
life lessons they have learned. As parents practice godly living and
make Spirit-controlled decisions (Galatians 5:16, 25), they can
encourage their children to follow their example. Proper, consistent
discipline brings a "harvest of righteousness" (Hebrews 12:11).
Failure to discipline results in dishonor for both parent and child
(Proverbs 10:1). Proverbs 15:32 says that the one who ignores
discipline "despises himself." The Lord brought judgment upon Eli the
priest because he allowed his sons to dishonor the Lord and "failed to
restrain them" (1 Samuel 3:13).

Children are a "heritage from the Lord" (Psalm 127:3). He places them
in families and gives parents guidance in how they are to be raised.
The goal of good parenting is to produce wise children who know and
honor God with their lives. Proverbs 23:24 shows the end result of
raising children according to God's plan: "The father of godly
children has cause for joy. What a pleasure to have children who are
wise" (NLT).